Guest FunkyJosh>XI< Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 So a few people ask me in game and I was asked on the Zoom meeting and it's difficult for me to physically word without feeling a bit of c**t and a mug. So here it is... You all know that I was due to be a father the beginning April of this year, well the girl in question blocked me from contacting her everyway possible then moved house I've been trying for 6 months to get into contact and to find out what is going on and I had no luck. I asked a work buddy to see if he could find her on any social media and he did, The due date of the baby changed to the end of may this year making this an 11th month pregnancy, straight away I knew from this point that this kid wasn't mine but to settle my head we did some more research and thinking looking at the scan photos she had sent to me, the amount of weeks pregnant against the photos did not sum up either with 18 days in between the scan photos one showing hardly anything and then the next showing pretty much a full baby at that point.... Now I know on why I was blocked and now I know why she moved house. It's upset me because of the fact I was lied to that way but at the same time I'm relieved I am out of the Toxic situation with her... This has completely changed my view on growing up and wanting a family as I never want to go through it again for the 3rd time... I hope this breaks it down for you guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobMc Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 25355 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 31 Topic Count: 257 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 5785 Content Per Day: 2.17 Reputation: 9113 Achievement Points: 63247 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 132 Joined: 12/14/16 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 10 Birthday: 01/05/1954 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 1 hour ago, FunkyJosh>XI< said: This has completely changed my view on growing up and wanting a family NO NO NO NO NO It is the greatest thing you will ever do, you are young have had a few bad experiences, but hey ho we all have. What you need to do is find the right woman, which isn't easy especially today strangely, and she will turn up sometime. I did not get married until I was 32, it not only was the best thing I ever did, but it also probably saved me from a pointless life. Think of this as a setback and a lucky escape, get out there buddy, she's looking for you too. Dman67, SnullerDk, Power! and 6 others 8 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitsune Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 28144 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 32 Topic Count: 26 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1146 Content Per Day: 0.75 Reputation: 1417 Achievement Points: 28306 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 01/31/20 Status: Offline Last Seen: August 2, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 Well she definitely sounds like a piece of work, you've certainly dodged a bullet I'd say. Also babies are gross anyway, so that's a very loud, shit covered bullet you've also dodged. Get a cat, they're much quieter. Sourtap, RobMc, piglo and 1 other 1 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitsune Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 28144 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 32 Topic Count: 26 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1146 Content Per Day: 0.75 Reputation: 1417 Achievement Points: 28306 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 01/31/20 Status: Offline Last Seen: August 2, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, RobMc said: I did not get married until I was 32, You been married that long?? Holy shit she needs a medal and a spa weekend Edited May 3, 2021 by Kitsune YACCster, RobMc, TBB and 3 others 1 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Icequeen Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 9264 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 87 Topic Count: 91 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 6059 Content Per Day: 1.53 Reputation: 7907 Achievement Points: 50979 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 53 Joined: 05/13/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 07/13/1981 Device: Android Share Posted May 3, 2021 You're a strong young man. You definitely didn't deserve that. Unfortunately people can be shitty and ruin a part of us. But in life you also learn from mistakes and grow from them. Not every relationship is going to be filled with distrust. Tje right one will come some day. You're still very young and a handsome young chap (haha I've always wanted so say that to someone) so don't let her fk up be on you. Anyways we're all here to support you kiddo. Keep your head up. Lots of XI love. RobMc, Majbasil, Essssieeee and 5 others 7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
RobMc Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 25355 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 31 Topic Count: 257 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 5785 Content Per Day: 2.17 Reputation: 9113 Achievement Points: 63247 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 132 Joined: 12/14/16 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 10 Birthday: 01/05/1954 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 15 minutes ago, Kitsune said: Also babies are gross anyway, so that's a very loud, shit covered bullet you've also dodged. What a pity, you are missing the best bit in your life, everyone is different but nothing, and I repeat nothing has tugged at my heartstrings more than being a father, and a grandfather. I would not swap my experiences and the love for no fucking cat, no love there. Dot80, TBB, WeednFeed and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FunkyJosh>XI< Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 (edited) I just thought I'd put it out there, with everyone asking I couldn't keep it quiet.. Means a lot from the bottom of my heart to be quite honest thankyou. Edited May 3, 2021 by FunkyJosh>XI< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YACCster Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 20683 Group: ++ COD4 Admin Followers: 138 Topic Count: 309 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 3344 Content Per Day: 0.89 Reputation: 4086 Achievement Points: 45176 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 22 Joined: 12/12/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: 45 minutes ago Device: Macintosh Share Posted May 3, 2021 Sorry to hear about it all but glad you filled us in. Upward and onward you deserve better! RobMc and KaptCrunch 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
WldPenguin Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 2995 Group: ++++ Senior Admin Followers: 181 Topic Count: 690 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 4428 Content Per Day: 0.98 Reputation: 6770 Achievement Points: 48513 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 68 Joined: 11/17/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: 4 hours ago Birthday: 02/13/1966 Device: Linux Share Posted May 3, 2021 Josh, it takes courage to be vulnerable, and you have shown that courage by opening up and sharing with us, your XI family. Life is made up of lessons, and many are difficult, but it makes us who we are. You learn from the lesson, and move on to bigger and better things. You're a kind, handsome young man, and there is a lot of life left for you to live, and someone special will come your way when you least expect it TBB, KaptCrunch, Roxy! and 6 others 6 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
KaptCrunch Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 389 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 44 Topic Count: 290 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 4409 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 3558 Achievement Points: 36076 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 38 Joined: 09/14/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 01/01/1970 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 (edited) a blessing in disguise, count your lucky stars you didn't fall into a loveless relationship that is only a meal ticket. save your collected data on her for sure will be coming for child support later. A note relationships is like a canoe, for 2 persons are paddling a course, if one changes ......your going in circles. dust off yourself Funky, you learned a life lesson, givers and takers now go find that special mate and get across lake to the destination paddling same direction. Edited May 3, 2021 by KaptCrunch piglo and RobMc 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Hawk Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 24799 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 8 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 107 Content Per Day: 0.04 Reputation: 138 Achievement Points: 1024 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/18/16 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 21 Device: iPad Share Posted May 3, 2021 Wow. Josh, sorry to hear. I'm happy that you dodged a bullet on that one. She seems like the true definition of a "C U Next Tuesday". Family is one of the greatest things you can do with your life. Don't count it out yet buddy. You just need to find the right girl. You never know when or where you may run into her. But you'll know it when you do. Give some time for yourself. Do things that make you happy. It's usually when you aren't looking, that the magic happens. Stay Strong my man!!! RobMc and piglo 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Majbasil Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 6247 Group: ** Registered Users Followers: 22 Topic Count: 24 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 645 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 826 Achievement Points: 5422 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/23/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: Wednesday at 09:08 PM Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 OH dear, so so sorry about all this mess you have been dealing with. Yikes some folks can be really horrible human beings. Here is what I have to say: 1. Condoms, condoms, condoms, do not trust that someone "new" says they are on the pill or whatever, keep yourself safe from lots of trouble. 2. Date all you want, but if/when you find that special person you adore, who adores you and who you both decide to have a family and be a family with - THEN you marry her. After your "honeymoon phase" and you know you both want a family, THEN you go for it. A guy can be a happy great dad at any age, so don't feel like you are in a hurry. It is the female, to be honest, that has a clock. I think, for example, George Cluny, age 60 or so, is a happy dad, with a wonderful wife who adores him and they both wanted a family, I think she is in her 40's. 3. You are a young one. You have lots of time. 4. At least for me, being a parent is the best thing ever. But to have to deal with it as a single parent situation, that would suck and be really, really hard - having to give up your child a lot and not able to be there full time, that would be heart breaking. Aim for NOT that. I hope any of that motherly advice helps dear one. Bee yourself, and bee happy! piglo, KaptCrunch, Roxy! and 2 others 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaptCrunch Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 389 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 44 Topic Count: 290 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 4409 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 3558 Achievement Points: 36076 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 38 Joined: 09/14/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 01/01/1970 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 Quote Condoms, condoms, condoms, do not trust that someone "new" says they are on the pill or whatever, keep yourself safe from lots of trouble. 100% true advice MajBasil very smart piglo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Guest FunkyJosh>XI< Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 Love you guys and girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobMc Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 25355 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 31 Topic Count: 257 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 5785 Content Per Day: 2.17 Reputation: 9113 Achievement Points: 63247 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 132 Joined: 12/14/16 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 10 Birthday: 01/05/1954 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 1 hour ago, Majbasil said: . Condoms, condoms, condoms, do not trust that someone Wow Basil, you made them wear 3 layers ? you certainly took precautions seriously girl ? piglo, TBB, Icequeen and 1 other 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PainKiller Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 20107 Group: ++ COD2 Admin Followers: 19 Topic Count: 119 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 2015 Content Per Day: 0.52 Reputation: 2480 Achievement Points: 16685 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 14 Joined: 09/21/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: Sunday at 12:39 AM Birthday: 08/01/1994 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 You dodged a bullet there for sure mate, I'm glad that you got out of that shitty situation; it could have been worse further down the line. Keep your head up high mate, keep doing your best and kick some ass. You got me on Steam and I'll reinstall ARMA 2 and 3 when I get the chance (got a new SSD so had to reinstall windows) and come chill out on there with ya if you want. piglo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
KaptCrunch Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 389 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 44 Topic Count: 290 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 4409 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 3558 Achievement Points: 36076 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 38 Joined: 09/14/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 01/01/1970 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 (edited) 50 minutes ago, RobMc said: Wow Basil, you made them wear 3 layers ? you certainly took precautions seriously girl ? last layer was for the Covid, Rob lol no zombie chicks for Duke Nukem you remember that Game practice safe sex rob Edited May 3, 2021 by KaptCrunch TBB and RobMc 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Timmah! Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 26443 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 35 Topic Count: 460 Topics Per Day: 0.20 Content Count: 5924 Content Per Day: 2.53 Reputation: 10287 Achievement Points: 50677 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 118 Joined: 11/01/17 Status: Online Last Seen: 6 minutes ago Birthday: 09/26/1971 Device: Android Share Posted May 3, 2021 So you & @Sourtap dating in the same circles? https://youtu.be/NLI_Q24RM_Q RobMc, KaptCrunch and Sourtap 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Guest FunkyJosh>XI< Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 6 minutes ago, Timmah! said: So you & @Sourtap dating in the same circles? https://youtu.be/NLI_Q24RM_Q got that right, bitches be crazy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlackRose Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 2208 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 110 Topic Count: 301 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 3601 Content Per Day: 0.75 Reputation: 3866 Achievement Points: 37500 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 53 Joined: 02/09/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: Wednesday at 04:02 PM Birthday: 06/09/1963 Device: Windows Share Posted May 3, 2021 lesson learn,,the hard way as these usually are,,,,when you meet the right person it will all fall in line... RobMc and KaptCrunch 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Timmah! Posted May 3, 2021 Member ID: 26443 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 35 Topic Count: 460 Topics Per Day: 0.20 Content Count: 5924 Content Per Day: 2.53 Reputation: 10287 Achievement Points: 50677 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 118 Joined: 11/01/17 Status: Online Last Seen: 6 minutes ago Birthday: 09/26/1971 Device: Android Share Posted May 3, 2021 3 hours ago, BlackRose said: lesson learn,,the hard way as these usually are,,,,when you meet the right person it will all fall in line... BlackRose 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
KaptCrunch Posted May 4, 2021 Member ID: 389 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 44 Topic Count: 290 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 4409 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 3558 Achievement Points: 36076 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 38 Joined: 09/14/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 01/01/1970 Device: Windows Share Posted May 4, 2021 (edited) 37 minutes ago, Timmah! said: you still in party mode, just wait it will come the baby. Edited May 4, 2021 by KaptCrunch ANGU5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
J3st3r Posted May 5, 2021 Member ID: 2162 Group: ++ COD4 Admin Followers: 153 Topic Count: 152 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 5080 Content Per Day: 1.06 Reputation: 5008 Achievement Points: 44606 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 22 Joined: 01/25/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: 2 hours ago Birthday: 02/26/1972 Device: Windows Share Posted May 5, 2021 (edited) On 5/3/2021 at 4:10 PM, BlackRose said: lesson learn,,the hard way as these usually are,,,,when you meet the right person it will all fall in line... Or you never meet the right person and you eventually give up looking and stay home and binge watch Midget Porn on the weekends like I do. Edited May 5, 2021 by J3st3r Timmah!, RobMc and Kitsune 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
AusiGirl Posted May 5, 2021 Member ID: 20712 Group: ++ COD4 Admin Followers: 40 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 852 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 1002 Achievement Points: 8435 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 7 Joined: 12/22/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: Saturday at 08:44 PM Birthday: 06/08/1972 Device: Windows Share Posted May 5, 2021 Never give up! you,ll find her when it,s right. life can sure suck sometimes, pick ya self up and move on, she wasn,t worth it to start with if she tells lies like that. I have a friend who did stay with the mum and he just found out his daughter wasn,t his and she is 10,but he signed the birth certificate so he still claims her as his and now fighting in court for her. RobMc 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
ANGU5 Posted May 6, 2021 Member ID: 2985 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 71 Topic Count: 114 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 1669 Content Per Day: 0.37 Reputation: 3011 Achievement Points: 20170 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 14 Joined: 11/13/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: Tuesday at 10:33 PM Birthday: 12/01/1966 Device: Windows Share Posted May 6, 2021 No more words to say other then this . its simple, I have had the chance to get to know you a little better out of game. And know this, Your a great young man with your whole life in front of you. Take everything every one said and make it yours. Learn, Think, motivate , and move forward the way you see fit for your life... Take care of your self before taking care of anybody else.... Don't judge yourself so hard and be open to everything .... Make life fun... keep life simple.. and just understand, Things that hurt us ,Don't destroy us, They just make us stronger and better.. RobMc, KaptCrunch and Izumi 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
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