I dont have visitations from departed loved ones. Since I was a baby I have had visits from people whom I do not know. At a young age I just thought they were nightmares but as I got older I began to keep a journal that I would right details down ( I always woke up after the visit) I would then look this person up. I think the "oldest person" I was visited by had been killed in the early 1900's. Sometimes they just want to talk, sometimes they just stand there in my dreams and look at me. Other times I see there last moments. Now I dont expect people to believe me of course I have dealt with people who have called me nuts or call me a liar. I'm not telling you this for any other reason than to say, being visited by a loved one, a friend or even in my case just someone. Is not abnormal. It is actually quite normal, some dont remember, some chose to not remember, and others who see it are skeptic. I have been lucky enough that I have yet to have a relative pass but I have no doubt in my mind that I will see them shortly after they do.