Damage - Need help with the female species... Please?
"Ahem" I beseech thee great and powerful community of the Xtreme. Anybody an expert in this field?
Alright, so here's the problem guys and gals. Im 14, everybodies first impression of me is that im 19 but im 14.
And theres this girl I love. (Awww, aint that cute?) NO. It isn't. (Not when you feel like tearing yourself apart)
And I have a major anxiety problem, Fight or Flight. Now everybody who's tried to snipe me knows im a good fighter ;P. But girls are my weakness. (Shhh! Dont tell the enemy that!) For some reason I feel like running when im next to her. It's a major problem to me. And I have NO idea why I feel that way. I mean, I'm a quiet and sensitive guy. But the problem is that I feel I've kind of fucked up because I let my anxiety get the best of me most of the time.
And I'm running out of time, I know her from school. annnd school ends in three weeks and were not in the same grade as each other. So I'm in a LITTLE bit of a situation here, right?
I have no idea if she likes me but I feel that she's pissed at me and wont talk to me because things were going good but then my anxiety got the better of me and I got more secluded. (We are a LOT alike, and I would probably feel the same way in the same position, which in a double mind f'ing way I am)
Any suggestions?!?!
Thanks.
Yes, I know its probably simpler than im making it. But I'd rather know the best trick to jump into the pool, before I do. Right?
Sounds pretty normal to me bro. You are just scared when around a CUTE girl because they just intimidate you and the ones you really like compounds it. You dont understand them (that wont change) and you are not sure how to approach them or this one without making a complete ass out of yourself. Dude that is great! Welcome to life and learning something new. It's going to be a challenge but it will be well worth the venture no matter what except if she has a boyfriend and he kicks your ass but can be good as well i guess. Good memories no matter the outcome. You will remember asking this and feeling this way till you get Altimers or die.
Plus it is called hormones and the love for woman. Not a bad problem to have as you could like sheep or other farm animals. Each person is defferent but many of us share the same properties... like Anxiety. I feel I am an expert but lack the ability to make it go away without some kind of distraction. We all exeriance it but some forms are more extreme than others and some people have more instances and instances of anxiety than others for different reasons.
Anxiety can mess you up as you know like when having to take a test in school, if you care about the class that is, you try and study but you worry at the same time if you will pass it or not. It puts a mental block until you figure out how to distract yourself and study. If you keep worrying the day of the test you may choke unless you can relax somehow and go for it.
That is the key... a distraction.
If they like you and many of the times you wont even know it until you get them drunk.. lol jk... no im not. You have to go for it. Ask her out in person or facebook if you have to and give it a go. If you get to take her out, take her on a date that has some kind of activity, bowling, mini golf.... whatever. I found going to a movies on the first date put me in more of nervos state only because you are just sitting there and having to think about something to talk about. I would get a mental block and look like a dork. Get active first and that will help put you at ease. Beach, pool, darts, beer pong... whatever.
BUT... you will fail. Hope not this time but you will fail. You will never know until you give it a go. You will regret more the ones you did not chase than the one you did. You will atleast expericned the try rather dwelling on her not knowing causing you more anxiety.
Good luck bro and when you get married or let us know. BTW.. wrap that shit as you don't need to pay child support for a very long time. I know you are not even thinking that about her.. deep down you are so just be careful if the opportunity does arise.