I made a post last June about my sister being ill. Her health has been up and down since then, but today it took a dramatic turn for the worse and she's not expected to see tomorrow's sunset. Her kidneys began failing earlier today and her other organs are expected to shut down shortly. She is at home with hospice and her husband and daughter are making her as comfortable as possible.
The worst part of having a family member terminally ill is really just waiting for them to die. It's hard for everyone. My sister went on hospice last week and even with the Alzheimer's at it's worse, every time she saw the hospice nurse she knew she was going soon. There was no more hiding it from her and I think that has lead to her downfall: her realization of reality. Last week she asked the nurse if she would be here for Christmas, she always throws a party for the entire family, the nurse said she may make it another couple of months.
I can't stop crying. My sister and I weren't very close like in most families because she is 20 years my senior and was married when I was 8 months old, but for my family, we are as close as we would ever get. She is a different generation than me. Our parents raised us differently. It's like our parents had 2 sets of kids, Jimmy and DD (Anne) and then 17 years later they had Joe, Johnny and me, Kathy (only my family calls me that so please don't. it would hurt).
Please don't say that she'll be out of pain or in a better place. Everyone keeps saying that and I just want to punch their faces. I've been through this before. (My mother was an invalid for years prior to having a stroke and being brain dead with a body kept alive by machines.) I don't understand why ppl keep saying these meaningless platitudes. They don't help after you've heard them over and over. You don't need to say anything, it is what it is. People die. It just hurts.
My son is going to take me to see her tomorrow if she makes it through the night. Hopefully her Alzheimer's will keep her from remembering how poor her health is. They say ignorance is bliss. If that's true I must be the smartest person on the planet.