I've been with my Mrs 9 yrs this year. Usually housework is the annoyance between us. Especially with 2 kids.
What I can suggest is that you alternate chores weekly, and once or twice a month you do her portion as well. For example if one of you washes the dishes and the other dries and puts them away...then you do that whole portion. Or maybe even do the laundry one day.
It pretty much stopped nagging here, because as a mum she does a lot anyway. Plus it makes her feel more appreciated which may manifest in a reward for you in other ways. My issue is that when I tidy up I'm a clean freak so I'll make an area spotless (wash, clean, wipe, dust, vacuum and such) and I get annoyed when it gets messy so I nag[emoji38]
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