I'll be married 38yrs next month (2nd marriage was 11yrs first time)...In marriage there is no chores for the adults...Chores are what you give your children to learn responsibility...Adults have shared responsibility...It should never be thought of 50/50...Some days you will give more and some days she will...It's not a competition and you don't keep score...You just do what needs doing as it arises...Women need to be told they are loved frequently...Men just assume they are, women need to hear it...Spend time with her one on one...A walk in the park, or sitting in the backyard just talking is all it takes...The simplest things in life are often the most memorable...If you both want the marriage to succeed it will...It really isn't that difficult...