BigPapaDean

The other day I asked a question about what 3 things were important to you and a possible friend. Most were within the guidelines but wasn't quite what I was looking for. I have thought about this quite a bit lately as I don't have many friends near me so I can do things with them and talk to them. I have also had friends betray my trust as I am sure many of you have. To me trust is huge in any relationship wither physical, spiritual and or romantically. I have been betrayed in all aspects of this yet I need to have friends with whom I can relate and fellowship with. The bible talks about friendship and the very first thing you need if you want friends is you must be friendly yourself. Proverbs 18:24 "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." Of course this was talking about Jesus and what he means to us but it also applies to us as humans in the aspect if I am not friendly then more than likely I am not going to have very many friends. I believe I have changed since my breakdown and possibly am not as approachable as before. I don't know but I actually feel more friendly! My kids think I talk to too many people when they take me out to do something. I guess that's still out for debate. The second part of this verse is what is really speaking of Jesus but I have had friends in the past and heard of those who have them now that can be described by this statement "closer than a brother." We know that most families whether brothers or sisters are very close and know each other very well! But there are friends we have sometimes that become so close and we rely on them so heavily they feel closer than our own flesh and blood. I can tell you I have had two such friends and they are still very dear to me after all this time. After my breakdown my mother and siblings felt bad for me but they had no idea how to help me nor what I wanted or needed! It was at this time a dear young mother of two became my closest friend and closer than my own family as she understood me and knew what I needed most and that was somebody to listen and show me they cared enough to give up their time and energy to keep me in the game of life.To this day I call her my little sister! The other one was there when my electric was shut off and I ended up wandering the streets during the daytime to keep warm. One night at her work I was there and she asked me if I would like a ride home after her work. That begin a friendship where she made sure I got home every night she worked and I made her laugh because I had an odd sense of humor kind of off the wall so to speak. Both of these ladies now have their own issues and I am helpless to help them. I feel horrible about that and let me tell you both of their situations are really quite serious. I do pray for them everyday. They both are like little sisters to me and I love them dearly!Sometimes a friend is someone you may have something in common and or able to talk about different things about. You may not even think the same or even have the same core values as the other one does. The thing is you still care and listen and just simply avoid those issues you know cause problems between you. Yet you get along so well your differences make no difference in your friendship. Kind of like "opposites attract." Other times they may be someone that you have common interest with such as hobbies and pastimes! I love to go fishing and when someone asks me to go if I feel up to it I am happy to accept the invitation. It usually ends up being a great time together and memories made for the future! Relationships would be better left alone by me as I was a failure at the romance thing tho I can tell you what not to do! If you want my perspective on that let me know and I will be willing to give it tho ever so humble!If you look at this you will see where what each of you told me is in this post but maybe not like you thought! I don't know but this has been on my mind for some time! God bless and may you be safe and happy! FDT