Malificent
Now...on a serious note.
I have been married two times...screwed literally and figuratively and monetarily...
Yes, I am a FEMALE. I was FUCKED!!!!
Soulmate? A lame term that just came about the last decade... NO SUCH THING!!!!!
All there is, is trust and love...if you don't have that...why bother? All a soulmate means is "hey, I'm not supposed to work at it...we were meant for eachother..." which is a cop-out and bullshit. Every relationship, whether it be love, friend, family...requires WORK. The amount of work denotes the lasting of the relationship.....
P.S. And if BOTH parties want to work at it....
Yeah, what she said. (although the term has been around a lot longer than that)
I have been married now a little over 20 years. The only reason it has lasted is because we both want it to. You can do your very best to make a good choice... but it 'takes two to tango'. If one partner looses their brain, the other is just outta luck. One of the guys I work with was married for 31 years to his high school sweet heart. They have 2 grown sons, who have kids of their own. The guy doesn't run around, drink heavily, or mistreat her. He works hard and provides VERY well. One day, she up and says "I don't wanna be married any more". The poor bastard was crushed, because he still loves her and never even saw it coming. Shit Happens.
I am truly sorry that you went though what you did Dean. I wish the best for you in the future.