Fair comment as regards me Damage - I don't know about Ph4nt0m's situation.
But Hxtr "lived here" for many years, racking up, I believe, more than 7,000 posts - upbeat, supportive, and funny. He is and always has been a genuinely nice guy, giving when he could, making others laugh, keeping it going.
He gave much of himself to XI - too much, as he found. He obsessed with the web site and it was having a negative impact on his life. He felt he had to leave to regain control. Certainly, he didn't want to do that. He said he saw it as necessary for his personal well-being.
His doing so certainly does not diminish in any way his huge contributions here, a depth of involvement and dedication to XI that, I would suggest, deserves better, than just "fkem." Rather, he is to be commended for all he has done for the clan and I feel sure his many, many friends here would agree.