ah comeon don't forget good manners gentleman. Ok ok I know many girls are raised different now but most women still like a guy to hold open the door, help with her coat, etc.. maybe I'm old fashioned idk. You're all correct in saying not to be a pussover -oops pushover but you can still be polite and kind. I can't think of any lady that likes to be talked down to, you should be equals and treat each other with respect. Forget the big fancy presents and all the crap, it's how you act every day, the little things that matter. Oh and don't forget, do stuff without being asked - take out the trash, do the dishes, cook dinner, shovel the snow, and keep your bathroom clean.