Idk, Mom and myself lay the laws in my house. The kids only fucked up once or twice they figured it out pretty quick, I never had to beat the little booger pickers sure wanted to at times.
We were and still are here to help the best we can even the grand baby is learning fast, her and her mother still live at home at 23.
I'm I too strict with them possibly but, I think they respect me and mom more now for being that way. Tough love the way I was raised the way I raise?
Oh the schools suck! I already want the grand daughter to be home schooled, that said I had all the teachers know they could at any time call us to alert us if Jr wanted to fuck off and they did but most were happy that I didn't expect them to raise the kids, it there job to teach abc123.
If the kids are taught respect early and you can show them that it works I feel that they will prosper in life. JMO