Well the good news and the bad news:
After all the round about stuff they made me an offer I couldn't refuse so I accepted. That was a couple of weeks ago and reality has now set in and I think I am going to back out of it.
The company and the position looks good, so do the people and there was plenty of good areas to move too (we were looking around the Blue Ash area of Cincinnati) but this is where the problems started
First off, the promise of health insurance from day one became "oh we just changed that policy to after 30 days" - funny no one mentioned that during the interviews. Then the relocation money that they promised me in order to move for my promised start date of Jan 6 became "You will get that in your first pay check ($15k). - potentially 3 weeks after I start.
So basically they want me to relocate my family, on my dime, in the next 4 weeks (with a major holiday in the middle). I just don't think i can do it. Especially pulling my 8 yr old out of school in the middle of the year and dumping him in another curriculum that most likely does not match up. (he is struggling in school right now)
We discussed it as a family and the decision was made to back out. It's a shame as it was quite a major upward move and would have more than made up for some crap stuff that happened in my last employment place.
So now we are targeting some time in the summer for somewhere, as we still desperately want to get out of the Detroit area - just not right this minute!!!!