The way you describe your doctor's outlook possibly suggests a dismissive attitude towards
an obvious mental health issue and it is regrettable that she seems to have opted for an
abrupt end to one aspect of the support you have been receiving. It betrays the erroneous
"buck your ideas up" reaction to a person who is in distress and plagued by worries, never mind
the 'advance grief' of someone who has a very sick close relative. Yes, there are ways one
can help oneself and perhaps provide some periods of respite from stress. If you would like to
explore them, here's a link to one charity that provides advice.
Your friends in the clan aren't around all the time so, if you need to talk, don't forget the
Samaritans organisation - they aren't just there for the suicidal. They're available 24/7/365:
http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us
I really do wish you better times and that your Dad's condition stabilises so you can experience
some joy once again.