Oh dear?, in our current snowflake world this is the result:-
Your parents were abusive and were not encouraging you to see how serious the world really is?
You obviously need counselling to recover from this trauma
In an ideal world your assigned social worker should have at the first signs of mirth given you up for adoption, your parents were obviously politically incorrect.
However compounding the matter you are now embroiled with a similar person, aka Shiny, no good will come of this, enjoying each others company must stop.
The only way forward now would be to embrace the teachings of the God 'Greta Thunberg', a wise and clever sage ( gorgeous too). Give up your tools and learn how to recycle plastic, push whales off the beach and similar good things. Make Shiny renounce her harem, then every week realise your place in our world by whipping each other until tears come flowing (She'll enjoy this bit). All is not lost my boy, we can get back on the true snowflake path with faith and flagellation, you know it makes sense.
Uncle Rob