BigPapaDean Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 1128 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 78 Topic Count: 1210 Topics Per Day: 0.22 Content Count: 6553 Content Per Day: 1.18 Reputation: 4430 Achievement Points: 63653 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/13/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: March 18 Birthday: 10/21/1954 Device: Windows Posted September 6, 2013 Some of you know my present situation with an ongoing health concern. I have a venous stasis ulcer on my right leg. Today I had a follow up and the ulcer has been healing very well. The Dr then looked me in the eyes and said Dean there are a few things we need to talk about. I thought I have heard this before. Now I am very conscious and in tune with my body so I thought that she wasn't going to tell me anything I didn't already know. The next few words through me for a loop and really shook me deep within. I am not here to seek sympathy but to ask for prayers that I will remain strong and do what I must do and that God will provide the resources that things go and move in a very good and positive way. She told me it appears that my kidneys are failing and would be considered a stage 2 failure out of 5. Yeah I know that it's good it's only a stage 2 but any is not acceptable. Dialysis is an option I want to think about tho it is a very real possibility. She said from the evidence she has it was probably damaged from my unmanaged high blood pressure for so many years. The thing is I am not on Medicare yet and won't be until my birthday. This means money is a real serious issue in all this and I have 2 others depending on me through all this. At first I was numb and when it finally begin to hit me I felt some of the old depression symptoms coming on. I then decided that was not going to get to me again. I worked too hard to get back where I am again among the living and having fun. Then I realised I am not the first nor will I be the last to experience this. I know in the near future it will be a very very hard fight for me to stay positive. I need you as friends to just give me the support this clan always does and I never ever expected to have this kind of news. I am now so I must fight for the sake of my kids and my darling little precious Granddaughter. If I am in game and don't say much you will know why and I am okay but just don't want to talk. I feel like just when things were really turning around for me that my feet get yanked out from beneath me again. I love you all and don't want to burden you but PLEASE Pray for me especially mentally and emotionally! Thanks ahead for your love and support! BigPapaDean!!! Awards
Hijack Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 1007 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 30 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 71 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 24 Achievement Points: 580 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/11/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: Sunday at 01:32 AM Device: Windows Posted September 6, 2013 Will do buddy, take care of self BigPapaDean 1 Awards
Gatorgirl Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 2986 Group: ++++ Senior Admin Followers: 206 Topic Count: 384 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 6456 Content Per Day: 1.31 Reputation: 7140 Achievement Points: 50711 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 21 Joined: 11/13/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 27 Birthday: 12/19/1967 Device: iPhone Posted September 6, 2013 Dean, we're here for you!!! Stay strong!!! BigPapaDean 1 Awards
little_old_man Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 1194 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 40 Topic Count: 436 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 6692 Content Per Day: 1.21 Reputation: 11691 Achievement Points: 53094 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 76 Joined: 02/27/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 16, 2023 Birthday: 04/15/1960 Posted September 6, 2013 Hang tough Dean. Prayers are coming your way. BigPapaDean 1 Awards
Joe Canadian Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 822 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 87 Topic Count: 317 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 5477 Content Per Day: 0.97 Reputation: 5025 Achievement Points: 42632 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 20 Joined: 12/02/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 25, 2023 Birthday: 03/01/1967 Posted September 6, 2013 Wish you the very best Dean BigPapaDean 1 Awards
YellowSnow Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 14 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 37 Topic Count: 90 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1148 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 744 Achievement Points: 8230 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 1 Joined: 09/01/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 25, 2021 Birthday: 03/30/1969 Posted September 6, 2013 Wow PapaDean.... (tears) You know that Jr and I love you very much. You are one of the most kind persons that I have ever met. I know you will have thousands of prayers. On a side note....Thank you for spending so much of your time with Jr. He really enjoys his PapaDean time on oovoo. You are awesome. Big prayers for you and your loved ones too. Please, If you ever need anything.............what I can do or give is yours...... YellowSnow>XI<ADM and YellowSnowJr>XI< BigPapaDean 1 Awards
LordOfChaos Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 3174 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 100 Topic Count: 78 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2162 Content Per Day: 0.45 Reputation: 1645 Achievement Points: 17423 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 1 Joined: 02/03/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: July 27, 2017 Birthday: 07/24/1957 Posted September 6, 2013 Prayers being sent your way pal. Please don't despair, as nothing on this planet is for sure... i have seen miracles change things overnight. Not saying that is going to happen, but positive thinking believe it or not helps a lot. Our bodys and minds are in sinc. Try to stay positive and think of being whole. I myself am a walking miracle. When i went into the hosptial, they were thinking of taking my left arm!! I fould this out from my mom afterwards, (noone wanted to tell me i might lose my left arm while i was in hospital) but not only did I not lose my arm, but I now have 98% of functionality of my left hand and arm. And I am left handed so... I am telling this to you so you can see that nothing the doctors say is written in stone. XI was a big part of helping me keep my spirits up in hospital, so just keep on doin what you are doin, and don't get depressed. Think happy thoughts, (You granddaughter) and try to stay in a positive mood. Love ya Dean-O! You are a good person who has had many shitty things happen to you. You are loved and appreciated. Hang in there pal! BigPapaDean 1
BurnnBright Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 22339 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 17 Topic Count: 168 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 1722 Content Per Day: 0.46 Reputation: 685 Achievement Points: 13018 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 7 Joined: 01/13/15 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 8 Birthday: 03/20/1972 Device: Windows Posted September 6, 2013 Doctors are "practicing" medicine and just because you got this devastating news, it does not mean you have one foot in the ground. You serve the Great Physician and I've seen Him do incredible things in people. You have already overcome so much and you are more than a conqueror. It's easy for us to let news such as this get us down but I sense a bit of stubbornness in you somewhere and I hope that you can channel that stubbornness into not giving up but overcoming this obstacle. Big hugs to you Dean. You are such a bright spot for so many people and we love you dearly. You're a good man and I am blessed to call you friend. DEEJAYKEG and BigPapaDean 2 Awards
DEEJAYKEG Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 1238 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 35 Topic Count: 1207 Topics Per Day: 0.22 Content Count: 6083 Content Per Day: 1.10 Reputation: 4985 Achievement Points: 50728 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 11 Joined: 03/12/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 11, 2024 Posted September 6, 2013 Dean, I am sorry to learn of your further health problems but urge you not to go into meltdown over this. It doesn't sound like the doctor has done a very good job counseling you and explaining what this means! Whilst I wouldn't say she doesn't know what she is talking about, the way this news has been delivered has induced fear into you that may not be appropriate to the circumstances. I know from personal experience how medics can scare the **** out of people - I was told by an optometrist that I showed signs of glaucoma and needed urgent attention or I could go blind. After a couple of anxious months, I was seen by an eye specialist who declared my eyes normal and free of any such signs! I also know, through personal experience, how people suffering anxiety and depression can catastrophise any problem. The worst case scenario is going to happen despite it being a remote possibility or highly improbable! So, stay calm, old fella - doing so will help the blood pressure issue! I appreciate the health care system where you are is not as accessible as it is in other countries so I'd suggest you do your own research via reputable organisations and forums. Coincidentally, an old friend of mine recently announced he was going for a health check as he'd been told he had kidney disease...18 years ago! You'll continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, but not in a way that asks the "Boss" not to recall you as that scenario seems a long way off. Be calm, be cool and be happy. A link for you: http://www.renal.org/whatwedo/InformationResources/CKDeGUIDE/Stage1-2CKD.aspx BigPapaDean and JohnnyDos 2 Awards
TheLastColdBeer Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 489 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 52 Topic Count: 553 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 4745 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 6058 Achievement Points: 42053 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 18 Joined: 09/22/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: December 23, 2024 Birthday: 01/09/1963 Device: Android Posted September 6, 2013 Very well Dean, hope you don't if I still wail everytime you stab me. BigPapaDean 1 Awards
Shamu Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 715 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 8 Topic Count: 418 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 2178 Content Per Day: 0.39 Reputation: 1183 Achievement Points: 16606 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 1 Joined: 11/09/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 2, 2023 Birthday: 11/04/1943 Posted September 6, 2013 Since I am an Agnostic prayers from me might serve no purpose, just know that I am thinking of you and wishing you all the best in both your physical and mental health. Also know that this forum, from what I have seen in the past, can provide tremendous moral and spiritual support, take advantage of it. Also know that aside from the support you receive from XI it is probably most important that you yourself must stay strong and commit to doing the things you need to do to take care of body and mind. I wish you all the best and hope your battles will be won. BigPapaDean 1
LandShark Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 698 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 26 Topic Count: 43 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1145 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 782 Achievement Points: 7232 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/06/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 15, 2024 Device: Windows Posted September 6, 2013 We are praying Dean! Never forget the words of Jeremiah 29:11: 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Never forget that God is there, He loves you and He Cares. Blessed be the name of the Lord! LandShark and Family Bexx and BigPapaDean 2 Awards
djMot Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 3189 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 98 Topic Count: 357 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 5257 Content Per Day: 1.09 Reputation: 11146 Achievement Points: 48948 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 114 Joined: 02/11/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: 16 hours ago Birthday: 12/24/1957 Device: Windows Posted September 6, 2013 Stay in the moment and live life now rather than fret about the future. Care about you Dean, and although I do my own battle with God on a daily basis, I'll say a word on your behalf between shouting at Him. BigPapaDean 1 Awards
BigPapaDean Posted September 6, 2013 Member ID: 1128 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 78 Topic Count: 1210 Topics Per Day: 0.22 Content Count: 6553 Content Per Day: 1.18 Reputation: 4430 Achievement Points: 63653 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/13/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: March 18 Birthday: 10/21/1954 Device: Windows Author Posted September 6, 2013 The hardest part of all this for me is knowing that someday something was bound to wallop me up side the head and get my attention as to just how fragile my health and life really are. I was caught up in the viewing life through the eyes of invincibility. Well that was run out of town quickly as I was brought back to reality. It's easy to get comfortable in the idea it won't happen to me because I am not going to let it. Well.....! Any way friends I really do appreciate your kind words of encouragement and support. I knew you wouldn't let me down. I was so touched and actually cried . I know I am just very emotional right now but it still made me smile/cry if you know what I mean. Hey @@DEEJAYKEG I read that page and also ear marked it in my favorites so I have easy access to it. If it wasn't for the monetary issue I would be just hokey pokey okay but that burns my chapped drawers as a redneck I know would say! Thanks again for all these words of comfort and support! Awards
Bexx Posted September 7, 2013 Member ID: 15115 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 14 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 76 Achievement Points: 572 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/30/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: February 1 Device: Windows Posted September 7, 2013 Will be praying for you bud. Never underestimate the power of prayer and keep your chin up. God never gives us anything we can't handle. Awards
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