hxtr Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Posted May 29, 2011 I am sorry but I got to get this out. My wife was upset this morning and I probed her as to what was wrong. She would not budge so I keep on saying your hiding things from me. Finally she tells me that my daughter and her boyfried wants to move out. See this boyfriend lives with us. He was invited because of home problems with his older brother. He also brings his large dog with him. They are good for a long time but I can tell he has not been as happy in a while. NOW THIS.. I so want to kill him it aint funny. He apparently had a fight with my daugher.. (one rule i had... ZERO fights around me, I will beat his ass) She needs to consintrate on school, collage not some fucking pissant bullshit drama. They have all freedom to do what the fuck ever they want. They can have parities and inviete all their fiends. They are left alone and not asked much of all. He is a non working fucking lazy cock sucking fucking piece of shit. But if it made my daughter happy and stable, i supported it. What a mistake but then again she would have moved out anyway.. i dont fucking no. I dont want my daughter to learn life the hardway. It fucking kills me knowing she will not do as good in school and her life will be filled with drama during this time. He was threatning to leave during the fight my wife seen and she is so insecure that she just cant let him leave to cool down because she thinks he wont come back. And then now she is giving and willing to move out for him. How am i suppost to feel. But i am sure I will get over it like very thing else. Just will never be the same. I need to go finish crying before work.
Nutcutter Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 1540 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 13 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 856 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 100 Achievement Points: 4812 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/28/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: May 6, 2017 Birthday: 09/20/1969 Posted May 29, 2011 Dont beat yerself up, you can only do so much. As long as you are trying there may be ups and downs and later on you may just be surprised how much "sunk in"
Nobodygood>XI< Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 219 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 15 Topic Count: 24 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 492 Content Per Day: 0.09 Reputation: 108 Achievement Points: 2906 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 2, 2018 Birthday: 04/28/1957 Posted May 29, 2011 Some shit you gotta let people live through, been there done that. It sucks Awards
baldie Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 607 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 76 Topic Count: 246 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3367 Content Per Day: 0.59 Reputation: 2718 Achievement Points: 34252 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 12 Joined: 10/21/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 09/16/1966 Device: Windows Posted May 29, 2011 Just beat down on his ass, your daughter may not understand at first but later on she will realise life gets a lot better without the wanker in her life.. It worked for me when an arse took my step daughters virginity then dumped her and she cried for days then the wanker asked her back. Needles to say that never hapened after I went round and gave him an ass whooping. Awards
wildthing Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 36 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 126 Topic Count: 239 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3861 Content Per Day: 0.67 Reputation: 2303 Achievement Points: 34784 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 19 Joined: 09/01/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: Thursday at 11:21 PM Birthday: 11/22/1968 Device: Windows Posted May 29, 2011 It is your house and you are the law lay down the smack down. Awards
Bushape Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 839 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 18 Topic Count: 83 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1334 Content Per Day: 0.24 Reputation: 64 Achievement Points: 7776 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/05/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: August 12, 2020 Birthday: 07/17/1958 Posted May 29, 2011 Hxtr, like everybody else said. But you can get your point across without having to be physical. Well most of the time. You rule the roost, just tell him the way that is. It can be hard, but they learn from their experiences and you have to let them or you will drive them away. It sucks, but that is the reality. She will understand eventuallty. All will be good again. I have been there. I went after one of my daughters boyfriends, I was going to pop his head off. Just grab him by the neck with both hands and pull him through the car window. They always get brave in the car. Some how, I didn't do it, but I came close. Just hang in there and roll with the punches. Don't beat yourself up too bad. Have a good one. Awards
SCooBY>XI< Posted May 29, 2011 Member ID: 3233 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 15 Topic Count: 29 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 334 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 40 Achievement Points: 2030 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/23/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 28, 2013 Birthday: 04/09/1967 Posted May 29, 2011 Tough spot to be in as the parent , I have 2 daughters myself 22 and 24 respectively , my younger one seemed to have decent choice in men , my older one liked punks like you describe for some reason ---no job , no plan etc.. etc.. I helped my older daughter get set up financially when she graduated college and moved in with her boyfriend to set up house (actually he moved in with her ) I always got respect from thier spouses but let them know if they ever mistreat my babies I would take it personally --it is very hard to sit back and allow them to make thier own choices and mistakes and I try to remember how I was at that age , just wanting to be left alone to make my own way---though my Dad and myself did not see Eye to Eye always ---when I got in trouble or needed somebody to talk to that I could trust he was always there for me , never calling me an idiot or talking down to me cus I made a mistake in life but always having my back no matter what . Now in my mid 40's having raised a few kids myself often I just get a knowing grin --he has been through it and no words really need to be said -- Your time will come as well ,You will never stop loving your children of course and they may put you through some stress here and there but down the road --things will be easier between you all as life takes them through its paces and you remain the stable loving influence in thier lives . Hang in there my friend . SCooBY
WeednFeed Posted May 30, 2011 Member ID: 433 Group: ++ COD4 Admin Followers: 42 Topic Count: 366 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 2646 Content Per Day: 0.46 Reputation: 4225 Achievement Points: 26786 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 48 Joined: 09/17/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 9 hours ago Birthday: 05/28/1957 Device: iPhone Posted May 30, 2011 Well I really try and not get involved in these type of posts but I can relate to this as I too have a one and only daughter who wanted to live with her boy friend 1 year out of high school. He worked in a small store pumping gas and she worked in a fast food place. Man was I PISSed off when my Wife told me she was leaving. All I could see was her pregnant and moving back in with us after some stupid kid fight. I figured these kids should have went to collage or some form of extra education. Well Against everything I did they moved in together. He finally went and took a 10 month Machinist Industrial Mechanic coarse (he lead the class and had 3 job offers) and we got him in as an operator at the Oil refinery I work at. He now is a team lead operator making $70,000/year. She got a job at my bank's Insurance call center making $22/hour.They got Married 2 years ago. I'm sure it had nothing to do with me showing the son-Inlaw my Rugar 44 mag. Well that's what he said at the wedding. The point is sometimes if we have given our kids all the right guidance and love some o them make the right choices. I hope his does not drive you folks apart and makes you stronger. Good Luck Weed Awards
hxtr Posted May 30, 2011 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Author Posted May 30, 2011 I have had time to think and have talk to one of my best friends here... the best thing in this situation is to do nothing we agreed. I will only make things worse if i just don't let go. Let me tell you this is hard to think about. Anyone with a daughter can understand. I only want to protect her but .. well i got to let go sometime. It all just hurts deep inside. Thanks for the posts everyone..... Weednfeed thanks.. I have to look past my fears and move on. I change my mind.. i have closer now Thanks, Jeff
hxtr Posted May 30, 2011 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Author Posted May 30, 2011 I smoked a 2 bowels and I feel so much better.... I will just stay high the next 2 days off. Wait I do that anyway.
hxtr Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Author Posted May 31, 2011 I had asked to close the thread.. i changed my mind. Just an update, my daughter and I talked. I support her and him 100% and I told them that. I told my daughter she has made the right choices up to this point and I dont expect anything different for her future. She does need her space. Her boyfriend is a good guy I am just selfish... selfish when it comes to my daughter. My wife did not take it as well. Then she gets side swiped that my step son is going to move out also... he is ready to be on his own. So that would leave my wife and I. Well we are only together really because of the kids. We dont fight.. one time is all in 7 months and it was minor. But we just dont have passion for one another anymore. We will stay friends and even lovers but we just wont live together. I have an opportunity in Montana that I am exploring. Anyone know anything about Montana. Not sure what part yet. My daughter after hearing I may be leaving suggested I rent a room from her coworker. Real cheap for this area. She does not want me so far away. I told her i will take the room then see what happens that I cant promise anything. I have to look out for myself now. But I will hold off on make any hasty decisions. Just exploring my options. How do i feel about all this... i have closer. I had closer with my daughter the next morning after this post. I knew I would support her first thing. I knew I had to let go. My wife.. not much emotion. Love her very much but I dont mind being away from her. She is a good woman and has taken care of my kids. I will miss my dogs. That will be hard. I love my dogs but I know this is for the best. I need to be apart from them because they are getting old. I tend to stomach the idea of them passing when I am away for some extended time. Otherwise the emotions compared to this would be X10. I love my dogs and hate to loose them. My step son we are cool. I am happy for him as he has a great girl friend. She will take care of him. So no worries there. But deep down.. this is how i feel. I posted the orig on my face book... i wish i found this first. I have been playing to this song over and over all fucking night and today. I am trying to desensitizing myself but it is not working. But want to ride these emotions so they dont become a distraction. Full emotion release. Feels good sometimes and for me is needed.
Hunter1948 Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 1850 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 98 Topic Count: 328 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 8620 Content Per Day: 1.61 Reputation: 4222 Achievement Points: 55994 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 09/29/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 29, 2023 Birthday: 06/19/1948 Posted May 31, 2011 Good luck as I had to make the same choices and I think she is starting to see the light. Awards
LilAcorn Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 1818 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 61 Topic Count: 140 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 1052 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 564 Achievement Points: 14380 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 1 Joined: 09/21/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 16 Birthday: 06/12/1975 Device: Windows Posted May 31, 2011 Hey, just keep your arms open for her so she knows she can come back to you in any kind of situation. That you will always be there for her. Think like the birds... parents feed, keep their babies warm and safe in their nest and when their feathers and strangth are there and finished, the parents encourage their little ones to fly and explore and learn on their own to gather food and protect themselves from danger and etc. My dad has told me, if i ever need shelter or safety from any harm i am free to go to him. My mom said the same till she moved into a nursing home and recently passed away. make sure she can call you any time and day for advice for any situation she is in and needs help with. Best of luck with everything. *hugs* Awards
FunStick Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 1100 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 166 Topic Count: 165 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 1038 Content Per Day: 0.19 Reputation: 623 Achievement Points: 9278 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 2 Joined: 02/07/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 10, 2024 Birthday: 11/30/1980 Device: Windows Posted May 31, 2011 If I was in this situation, I would show them both what a hard life is without an education and a career. Make them do volunteer work to like feed the homeless, and also spend time with both of them and do things together more. Having parties and such is cool but too much freedom will also give them bad habits. You are the head of the House and the Father. Your decisions should be respected and I would have a talk with him and let him know that if he walks out he will never come back in and his daughter will have a working bf that is supportive and considerate of her needs and such. I wish you luck in this and hope he gets his act together and hope she does not fail school. Awards
hxtr Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Author Posted May 31, 2011 My arms will always be open and nothing she could ever do would change that. She is a smart girl and her goal is to do surgery as either a nurse or what she really wants as a doctor. She can do it and I hope she chooses to be a doctor. She has been very independent over the years and I have tried to promote confidence even if I was lacking it. I knew she could be what ever she wanted.. minus ufc or things like that. lol This is going to be good for them. They will get a crash course on life. This is also going to be good for me. I kind of excited for the change.
dollardogg Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 189 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 2 Topic Count: 45 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1388 Content Per Day: 0.24 Reputation: 0 Achievement Points: 7432 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/03/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 5, 2024 Birthday: 02/01/1978 Device: Android Posted May 31, 2011 hell yeah be great for them hxtr life starts
hxtr Posted May 31, 2011 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Author Posted May 31, 2011 dollardogg hell yeah be great for them hxtr life starts I dont know if i am going to montana or not but if I do.. i am coming to see you.. then rugger.
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