Janey Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 434 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 58 Topic Count: 272 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 1289 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 1448 Achievement Points: 12930 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 09/17/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 13 Device: iPhone Posted October 8, 2013 I made a post last June about my sister being ill. Her health has been up and down since then, but today it took a dramatic turn for the worse and she's not expected to see tomorrow's sunset. Her kidneys began failing earlier today and her other organs are expected to shut down shortly. She is at home with hospice and her husband and daughter are making her as comfortable as possible. The worst part of having a family member terminally ill is really just waiting for them to die. It's hard for everyone. My sister went on hospice last week and even with the Alzheimer's at it's worse, every time she saw the hospice nurse she knew she was going soon. There was no more hiding it from her and I think that has lead to her downfall: her realization of reality. Last week she asked the nurse if she would be here for Christmas, she always throws a party for the entire family, the nurse said she may make it another couple of months. I can't stop crying. My sister and I weren't very close like in most families because she is 20 years my senior and was married when I was 8 months old, but for my family, we are as close as we would ever get. She is a different generation than me. Our parents raised us differently. It's like our parents had 2 sets of kids, Jimmy and DD (Anne) and then 17 years later they had Joe, Johnny and me, Kathy (only my family calls me that so please don't. it would hurt). Please don't say that she'll be out of pain or in a better place. Everyone keeps saying that and I just want to punch their faces. I've been through this before. (My mother was an invalid for years prior to having a stroke and being brain dead with a body kept alive by machines.) I don't understand why ppl keep saying these meaningless platitudes. They don't help after you've heard them over and over. You don't need to say anything, it is what it is. People die. It just hurts. My son is going to take me to see her tomorrow if she makes it through the night. Hopefully her Alzheimer's will keep her from remembering how poor her health is. They say ignorance is bliss. If that's true I must be the smartest person on the planet. Awards
Gatorgirl Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 2986 Group: ++++ Senior Admin Followers: 206 Topic Count: 384 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 6456 Content Per Day: 1.31 Reputation: 7140 Achievement Points: 50711 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 21 Joined: 11/13/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 27 Birthday: 12/19/1967 Device: iPhone Posted October 8, 2013 Janey, I know that no words can comfort you right now, but know that you are in everyone's prayers and that we are all here for you. Janey, google, 1lost1 and 2 others 5 Awards
hxtr Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 220 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 147 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 16950 Content Per Day: 2.96 Reputation: 13538 Achievement Points: 129714 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 120 Joined: 09/04/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: October 26, 2023 Birthday: 04/05/1970 Posted October 8, 2013 Wow Janey... very sorry to hear all that. 20 years spread is quite a gap in time. If your folks are still alive.. it is very sad as parents should no out live their kids. Janey and google 2
Damage_inc- Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 2048 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 294 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 6689 Content Per Day: 1.27 Reputation: 4709 Achievement Points: 48999 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 12/15/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 29, 2023 Birthday: 05/30/1967 Posted October 8, 2013 just hold her hand and talk to her and that will give her some comfort being surrounded by people who love her .if she doesnt open here eyes she is still aware of your presence.so best thing you can do is spend some time by her side .hang in there girl. google, 1lost1 and Janey 3 Awards
Hunter1948 Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1850 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 98 Topic Count: 328 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 8620 Content Per Day: 1.61 Reputation: 4222 Achievement Points: 55994 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 09/29/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 29, 2023 Birthday: 06/19/1948 Posted October 8, 2013 Very sorry to hear this Janey. I hope you get some time to spend with her to say your good byes. Janey and google 2 Awards
Janey Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 434 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 58 Topic Count: 272 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 1289 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 1448 Achievement Points: 12930 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 09/17/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 13 Device: iPhone Author Posted October 8, 2013 thanks. Sorry I vented about platitudes. I'm guilty of using them, too. Awards
KingStinger! Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 2465 Group: +++ Minecraft Head Admin Followers: 30 Topic Count: 170 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 1818 Content Per Day: 0.35 Reputation: 1937 Achievement Points: 14560 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 2 Joined: 05/06/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 20 Birthday: 04/17/1972 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 Praying for strength for you and your family Janey google 1 Awards
Giggles Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1217 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 73 Topic Count: 94 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1608 Content Per Day: 0.29 Reputation: 1865 Achievement Points: 14709 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/04/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 19 Birthday: 01/21/1978 Device: Android Posted October 8, 2013 I some what understand your pain of loss ....You and the family are in my prayers!! God Bless!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1lost1 and google 2 Awards
QueenCobra Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 2935 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 21 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 281 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 147 Achievement Points: 1857 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 1 Joined: 10/28/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: August 2, 2015 Birthday: 07/19/1978 Posted October 8, 2013 sorry to here about your sister you are in my prayers. google 1
P!nk Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 79 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 227 Topic Count: 228 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3444 Content Per Day: 0.60 Reputation: 4054 Achievement Points: 30295 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 9 Joined: 09/02/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 06/29/1977 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 I am really sorry to hear this, You are in my thoughts. Awards
JohnnyQuest Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1965 Group: Fallen Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 43 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1176 Content Per Day: 0.22 Reputation: 1082 Achievement Points: 8599 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/12/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 15, 2016 Birthday: 02/11/1969 Posted October 8, 2013 A great sister you are, an asset to the world Janey love... Damage_inc- 1
NITRO Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1095 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 34 Topic Count: 101 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3639 Content Per Day: 0.65 Reputation: 2460 Achievement Points: 24702 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 2 Joined: 02/06/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: March 17 Birthday: 03/23/1979 Device: iPhone Posted October 8, 2013 Thoughts and prayers to you in this sad time in your life. Awards
Chris Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1357 Group: ++ COD4 Admin Followers: 67 Topic Count: 182 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 2366 Content Per Day: 0.43 Reputation: 1826 Achievement Points: 17249 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 04/21/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: Saturday at 10:19 PM Birthday: 09/11/1972 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 I'm so sorry Janey. Thinking of you. Awards
Wen Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 3764 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 13 Topic Count: 25 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 424 Content Per Day: 0.09 Reputation: 184 Achievement Points: 2768 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/01/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 18, 2016 Birthday: 11/26/1978 Posted October 8, 2013 courage janey , désolé d apprendre ca , penseé a toi et ta famille
BigPapaDean Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1128 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 78 Topic Count: 1211 Topics Per Day: 0.22 Content Count: 6554 Content Per Day: 1.18 Reputation: 4430 Achievement Points: 63664 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/13/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: Wednesday at 01:06 AM Birthday: 10/21/1954 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 thanks. Sorry I vented about platitudes. I'm guilty of using them, too. It's okay who hasn't used them but you are right! They have no real source of comfort. People say them because they want to help and don't know how. Tho there is a Bible verse I use that really makes it real to me: Psalm 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints. Psalm 116:14-16 Hope it helps in some small way! Awards
Boomer Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 2083 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 42 Topic Count: 172 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 3554 Content Per Day: 0.68 Reputation: 4992 Achievement Points: 23761 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/31/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: May 14, 2014 Birthday: 10/20/1962 Posted October 8, 2013 stay strong & keep your eyes on your goals, do not lose focus. everything else will take care of itself. lots of love & prayers to you and your family!
Angel Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 46 Group: **- Inactive Registered Users Followers: 104 Topic Count: 133 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 4326 Content Per Day: 0.75 Reputation: 2974 Achievement Points: 34860 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 12 Joined: 09/01/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: September 29, 2024 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 Just find ur inner strength...its amazing what it can do when u find it and let it out, trust me. Sending thoughts and prayers to you Giggles 1
Dukoo Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 2527 Group: ** Registered Users Followers: 68 Topic Count: 222 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 1958 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 2029 Achievement Points: 16244 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 2 Joined: 05/27/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: 47 minutes ago Birthday: 02/27/1981 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 you and you fam are in my prayers janey. x Stinger 1
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LandShark Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 698 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 26 Topic Count: 43 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1145 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 782 Achievement Points: 7232 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/06/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 15, 2024 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 The Landshark crew is praying for you and your family. May God give you all peace. Gary Awards
PimpedOutPete Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 174 Group: +++ COD2 Head Admin Followers: 130 Topic Count: 387 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 15028 Content Per Day: 2.62 Reputation: 8043 Achievement Points: 92211 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 59 Joined: 09/02/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 3 hours ago Birthday: 04/23/1970 Device: iPhone Posted October 8, 2013 I'm so sorry to hear this. Awards
google Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 1270 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 149 Topic Count: 330 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 3864 Content Per Day: 0.70 Reputation: 4548 Achievement Points: 34203 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 12 Joined: 03/22/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 26 Birthday: 04/12/1969 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 I am really sorry to hear this..you and you family are in my prayers Janey Awards
Janey Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 434 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 58 Topic Count: 272 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 1289 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 1448 Achievement Points: 12930 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 09/17/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 13 Device: iPhone Author Posted October 8, 2013 My brother, Joe, is picking me up and we are going across the lake to see her. My other brother, Johnny, is meeting us there. She stopped speaking for the most part, and when she does it's sometimes to people who are already dead. I don't know if she sees them or is hallucinating due to the morphine, but it's freaky. I'll update later today. And thank you for your words of support. They mean a lot to me. Xalandra 1 Awards
geemack Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 20076 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 60 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 58 Achievement Points: 506 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/16/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: March 26, 2020 Birthday: 07/26/1971 Posted October 8, 2013 my thoughts are with you are your family Janey xx Big hugs Awards
trekvinger Posted October 8, 2013 Member ID: 3811 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 16 Topic Count: 15 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 2019 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 826 Achievement Points: 11639 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 1 Joined: 10/17/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 27 Birthday: 10/25/1981 Device: Windows Posted October 8, 2013 I'm so sorry Janey . i praying for you and your family Awards
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