TheLastColdBeer Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 489 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 51 Topic Count: 550 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 4684 Content Per Day: 0.87 Reputation: 5899 Achievement Points: 41237 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 15 Joined: 09/22/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 10 hours ago Birthday: 01/09/1963 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 http://www.ottawafuneralhome.com/m/?p=memorial&id=1776623 Buried my brother-in-law Saturday. Massive funeral, everyone knew Deano, and it was a huge send off. Again, Pat, Lisa, and I held Dean's hands while he passed away. This is getting a bit rough, losing my wife three weeks ago, and her brother just now. I'm back to work, don't know what else to do. Can't sleep, can't eat, and have no idea what direction to take for the rest of my life. There really isn't a manual that tells you how to cope with loss this large. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Sonovabich Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 82 Group: ** Registered Users Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1534 Topics Per Day: 0.28 Content Count: 5020 Content Per Day: 0.93 Reputation: 5172 Achievement Points: 131491 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 116 Joined: 09/02/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 1 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 Sorry to hear about even more tragic news for you LCB, it's hard to know what to say when people are suffering like you obviously are, all the old adages come to mind, "take each day as it comes" "time is a great healer" you just gotta get through it m8 and wait for that little bit of light at the end of the dark tunnel. TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loaderXI Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 252 Group: +++ COD2 Head Admin Followers: 71 Topic Count: 392 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 6420 Content Per Day: 1.19 Reputation: 6496 Achievement Points: 54365 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 30 Joined: 09/05/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 13 hours ago Birthday: 03/22/1965 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 I am so sorry for to hear this ... This year we have lost too many folks it is so sad ... Do what you do my friend keep on keeping on and honor them while doing it...Seems like we have to live there lives for them along with ours now that they are gone... Thoughts and Prayers loADER>XI< TheLastColdBeer and bds1961 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
TheDrimpXI Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 244 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 120 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1235 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 993 Achievement Points: 11005 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/05/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 22 Birthday: 04/09/1979 Device: Android Share Posted April 18, 2016 keep strong TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Unchileno Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 101 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 109 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.14 Content Count: 8135 Content Per Day: 1.51 Reputation: 6747 Achievement Points: 61519 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 13 Joined: 09/02/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 9 Birthday: 01/23/1974 Device: iPhone Share Posted April 18, 2016 Hang in there LCB ..They would want you to keep fighting..Just take it day by day brother. TheLastColdBeer and BigPapaDean 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Damage_inc- Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 2048 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 294 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 6689 Content Per Day: 1.36 Reputation: 4709 Achievement Points: 48999 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 12/15/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 29, 2023 Birthday: 05/30/1967 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 cant image the heartache and confusion your going thru now .try to focus on basics.one step at a time.a good thing is to focus on work and then talk to us whenever you can and share some stories with us about them...take care. TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Hunter1948 Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 1850 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 98 Topic Count: 328 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 8620 Content Per Day: 1.72 Reputation: 4222 Achievement Points: 55994 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 5 Joined: 09/29/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: November 29, 2023 Birthday: 06/19/1948 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 My heart goes out to you. As others have said time does heal and you will always remember the good memories. TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
AyaqGuyaq Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 3773 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 39 Topic Count: 30 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3138 Content Per Day: 0.73 Reputation: 2983 Achievement Points: 24456 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 10 Joined: 10/06/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 29, 2022 Birthday: 11/03/1966 Share Posted April 18, 2016 Hang in, there, Last Cold Beer. The mourning process takes time. The hurt never goes away, but I take solace, being a Christian, that I'll see my loved ones again someday. It doesn't help the hurt, now, but it gives you something to look forward to, if you are so-inclined. Take care. Ayaq TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Mule Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 390 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 32 Topic Count: 410 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 4251 Content Per Day: 0.79 Reputation: 3050 Achievement Points: 35625 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 7 Joined: 09/14/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: April 25 Birthday: 05/08/1959 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 So sorry to hear this stay strong we are here for you if need be! It all hurts but we all love you here if you need an ear. Call 816-886-8798 J3st3r and TheLastColdBeer 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
J3st3r Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 2162 Group: ++ COD4 Admin Followers: 153 Topic Count: 152 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 5113 Content Per Day: 1.05 Reputation: 5032 Achievement Points: 44857 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 22 Joined: 01/25/11 Status: Offline Last Seen: 12 hours ago Birthday: 02/26/1972 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 (edited) Sorry buddy.Going through similar stuff myself.You need to find yourself a buddy to talk to and hang out with.Or a good hobby that will take your mind off of things for a while.I like to work on Small engines and a bit of construction from time to time but I need a buddy to. Jump on TS and BS with people it helps alot.Mr @@AyaqGuyaq and me BS for hours on TS and it really really helps.BTW thank you Guyaq Getting slobbering drunk doesn't help much.Tried that,felt worse And had a hellva hangover for 2 days. Edited April 18, 2016 by J3st3rXI TheLastColdBeer and AyaqGuyaq 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
TBB Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 989 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 25 Topic Count: 274 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 18350 Content Per Day: 3.48 Reputation: 20429 Achievement Points: 134462 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 275 Joined: 01/07/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: 1 hour ago Birthday: 01/27/1946 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 Hang in there LCB - we're here for you BUDMAN and TheLastColdBeer 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
BigPapaDean Posted April 18, 2016 Member ID: 1128 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 78 Topic Count: 1204 Topics Per Day: 0.23 Content Count: 6538 Content Per Day: 1.25 Reputation: 4424 Achievement Points: 63540 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/13/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 8 Birthday: 10/21/1954 Device: Windows Share Posted April 18, 2016 HUGS TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Wild Fire Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 5468 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 36 Topic Count: 19 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 674 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 655 Achievement Points: 6446 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/04/13 Status: Offline Last Seen: 15 hours ago Birthday: 06/22/1965 Device: Android Share Posted April 19, 2016 Hey Beer, my condolences to you. I cannot fathom how hard the last few months have been. Like others have said, find a passion. Work will suffice for now, but eventually look for something outside of work, a hobby, a sport, coaching, volunteering. And find a buddy, or a group, where you can talk things out. And PM me if you want to chat. Prayers. BUDMAN and TheLastColdBeer 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Giggles Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 1217 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 72 Topic Count: 93 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1598 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 1840 Achievement Points: 14602 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/04/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 9 Birthday: 01/21/1978 Device: Android Share Posted April 19, 2016 @@TheLastColdBeer I am so sorry to hear of your losses but the best advice I can give from someone who has been in your shoes is to take it one day at a time. Anyone who tells you time heals all wounds lies it just makes it easier to swallow not deal with. My goal has been to always be the best person they would want me to be in there honer. If you ever need an ear please don't be shy and yell. Giggles HUGS BigPapaDean, Wild Fire and TheLastColdBeer 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
TheLastColdBeer Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 489 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 51 Topic Count: 550 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 4684 Content Per Day: 0.87 Reputation: 5899 Achievement Points: 41237 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 15 Joined: 09/22/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 10 hours ago Birthday: 01/09/1963 Device: Windows Author Share Posted April 19, 2016 Thanks everyone. I know the cliches about time, keeping busy, and lean on your faith. Ain't no kid, it's just this has been a huge load all at once. Not to mention the paperwork clowns have insisted all my assets be turned into an "estate", with its own tax ID. Excuse me, we had everything in joint tenancy, no need to create an estate, thank you very much. The sleep thing bothers me most, don't know how long you can function on two hours sleep a night. Feels like I've been awake since February. Someday, there will be a new normal, just don't know where or when. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Giggles Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 1217 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 72 Topic Count: 93 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1598 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 1840 Achievement Points: 14602 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/04/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 9 Birthday: 01/21/1978 Device: Android Share Posted April 19, 2016 @@TheLastColdBeer took me a year before I started to sleep somewhat normal again. TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
AyaqGuyaq Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 3773 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 39 Topic Count: 30 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3138 Content Per Day: 0.73 Reputation: 2983 Achievement Points: 24456 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 10 Joined: 10/06/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 29, 2022 Birthday: 11/03/1966 Share Posted April 19, 2016 I lost my wife to divorce, I sleep fine. Lol. My ex-wife was different; every time there was a strange knock on our door, she asked me to go hide. My neighbor must have thought I was in the Coast Guard, 'cause there were always messages on the answering machine asking if "the coast was clear." My ex-wife came home yelling excitedly, "Pack your bags, I just won the lottery." I asked, "Where are we going?" "You're not going anywhere, get out!!!" Lol. Hang in there. Ayaq TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
NITRO Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 1095 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 34 Topic Count: 101 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3639 Content Per Day: 0.69 Reputation: 2460 Achievement Points: 24702 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 2 Joined: 02/06/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: May 7 Birthday: 03/23/1979 Device: Android Share Posted April 19, 2016 Keep ya head up bro, its alot to deal with at the moment but time will make it easier and then you will find some direction and peace. TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
BigPapaDean Posted April 19, 2016 Member ID: 1128 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 78 Topic Count: 1204 Topics Per Day: 0.23 Content Count: 6538 Content Per Day: 1.25 Reputation: 4424 Achievement Points: 63540 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/13/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 8 Birthday: 10/21/1954 Device: Windows Share Posted April 19, 2016 Thanks everyone. I know the cliches about time, keeping busy, and lean on your faith. Ain't no kid, it's just this has been a huge load all at once. Not to mention the paperwork clowns have insisted all my assets be turned into an "estate", with its own tax ID. Excuse me, we had everything in joint tenancy, no need to create an estate, thank you very much. The sleep thing bothers me most, don't know how long you can function on two hours sleep a night. Feels like I've been awake since February. Someday, there will be a new normal, just don't know where or when. You need to see a Dr about depression or some kind of anxiety dysfunction and see if they can help you with the sleep! Labob 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
TheLastColdBeer Posted April 20, 2016 Member ID: 489 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 51 Topic Count: 550 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 4684 Content Per Day: 0.87 Reputation: 5899 Achievement Points: 41237 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 15 Joined: 09/22/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 10 hours ago Birthday: 01/09/1963 Device: Windows Author Share Posted April 20, 2016 Need Dean, really? I was kinda thinking about taking over an old shop teachers' 45' yacht project. Finish fitting her out, mast, rigging, sailplan & taking her down the Mississippi river to Port Arthur, Texas. That appeals a little more to my interest than sitting in a chair with a drool bucket in my lap chewing Zoloft. Damn, I just said things were a little rugged right now, didn't say I was ready to throw in the towel. AyaqGuyaq, Blackbart and bds1961 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
BurnnBright Posted April 20, 2016 Member ID: 22339 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 17 Topic Count: 167 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 1715 Content Per Day: 0.50 Reputation: 679 Achievement Points: 12965 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 7 Joined: 01/13/15 Status: Offline Last Seen: May 22 Birthday: 03/20/1972 Device: Windows Share Posted April 20, 2016 I'm so sorry. I can not comprehend what you're going through. I'm not sure that I could bear it. I'll be praying for you and please let us know if we can do anything for you. TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
Labob Posted April 20, 2016 Member ID: 42 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 50 Topic Count: 338 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 8288 Content Per Day: 1.53 Reputation: 6008 Achievement Points: 53774 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 12 Joined: 09/01/09 Status: Offline Last Seen: 5 hours ago Birthday: 01/30/1959 Device: Windows Share Posted April 20, 2016 Sounds like ya got control of it so for a bit your going to have to suck it up buttercup and remember people are watching what you do to handle all that crap because they have no idea what to do when it happens to them. I guess if it don't kill us it makes us stronger some how. Personally I'd rather never have to deal with it at all not something I'd like to say I got good at but there it is . TheLastColdBeer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
BigPapaDean Posted April 20, 2016 Member ID: 1128 Group: *** Clan Members Followers: 78 Topic Count: 1204 Topics Per Day: 0.23 Content Count: 6538 Content Per Day: 1.25 Reputation: 4424 Achievement Points: 63540 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/13/10 Status: Offline Last Seen: June 8 Birthday: 10/21/1954 Device: Windows Share Posted April 20, 2016 Need Dean, really? I was kinda thinking about taking over an old shop teachers' 45' yacht project. Finish fitting her out, mast, rigging, sailplan & taking her down the Mississippi river to Port Arthur, Texas. That appeals a little more to my interest than sitting in a chair with a drool bucket in my lap chewing Zoloft. Damn, I just said things were a little rugged right now, didn't say I was ready to throw in the towel. My point was LCB and I know you are cognate but lack of sleep is a big sign of some sort of dysfunction and if not treated can become permanent such as what happened to me! I care about you man! TheLastColdBeer and Blackbart 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
AyaqGuyaq Posted April 20, 2016 Member ID: 3773 Group: ***- Inactive Clan Members Followers: 39 Topic Count: 30 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3138 Content Per Day: 0.73 Reputation: 2983 Achievement Points: 24456 Solved Content: 0 Days Won: 10 Joined: 10/06/12 Status: Offline Last Seen: January 29, 2022 Birthday: 11/03/1966 Share Posted April 20, 2016 Lol, Last Cold Beer--finish that damn yacht project, and we'll be pulling for you in the next "America's Cup" yacht-racing contest. You gotta make sure to have a big ">XI<" stenciled in your sail--come on, now!!! Lol. Ayaq BigPapaDean and TheLastColdBeer 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Awards
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